Everyone knows that confidence is one of the sexiest traits a man can have...nothing is more appealing than being with someone who believes in him/herself and knows their own self-worth. But, did you know that a lack of confidence can actually be detrimental to a relationship, especially when the man in the relationship is lacking it? (Lack of confidence in women affects relationships in different ways, usually in the form of insecurity, jealousy, and/or possessiveness, and that can also be detrimental, but that will be discussed at another time.)
Ladies, if your man (or the one you're eyeing) doesn't have at least a modest amount of confidence in himself and is always second-guessing himself and his abilities, watch out! There may be a problem on down the line. Read on to see why confidence is one of the most important qualities a man can have!
1) Confidence is sexy. It goes without saying that a woman will prefer a confident guy over one who's always down-in-the-dumps and underestimating himself any day. A guy who knows his self-worth and isn't afraid to go after what he wants is sexy. It doesn't matter how rich, hot, or smart he is; if he isn't confident, then all of the other things lose much of their appeal; confidence is that quality that gives that extra "Ooomph!" to someone's personality and makes you want to get to know them better.
2) When a man isn't confident, it affects all areas of his life, especially his relationships. No matter how awesome a catch you are, a man who is lacking true confidence will often be unable to appreciate it; he most likely won't have the balls to pursue you and will have a difficult time appreciating you for all that you bring to the table (hence the existence of SDS). True confidence differs from brazen cockiness (for example, Jersey Shore-style chest-thumping and posturing); true confidence is a guy who isn't afraid to ask you out on a date, but doesn't think any less of himself if you happen to say, "No." True confidence is a guy who knows how to treat a woman right, and expects the same in return from the one he dates. True confidence is a guy who knows what he wants and deserves, and won't settle for anything less.
3) Men who aren't confident usually have a negative outlook on life, and will often drag you down in the end. Whether they mean to or not, many men who lack confidence will often have a negative outlook in other areas of their lives, not just when it comes to relationships. A man doesn't need to be the most confident person around, but if he doesn't generally have the balls to go after what he wants, he'll be more likely to be generally unhappy with where he is in life, and his negative attitude will be contagious and will rub off on you. Confident people are usually happier people, and being around them will generally be more pleasant overall.
4) Men who are confident in themselves are more capable of making their significant other happy. When a man is truly confident and values himself and those he cares about, he won't have a problem doing what it takes to make them happy. Men who are insecure or don't believe in themselves, however, often resort to game-playing and tactics (such as withholding affection and emotional avoidance) in a relationship in order to compensate for their lack of confidence in other areas of their lives. A truly confident guy won't be afraid of expressing how he feels about his significant other, and won't be held back by fears of rejection.