Apr 28, 2011

Q & A - Facebook Fling

Q. Dear Alannah,

So there's this guy I met over Facebook...I thought I knew him, but I didn't.  We started talking and it led to some deep, hours long conversations.  We also flirted alot, too, and he asked me if I was single.  A few days later, I suggested hanging out, and he immediately agreed.  We made plans to go to the movies with a couple of his friends, A (who I knew) and B, who I didn't.  It went sooo well!  He was nice and funny and awesome, but since then he's been really distant...he'll still text me first and stuff, but he'll answer in one word texts, etc.  I asked him if something was wrong and if he wanted to stop talking to me, but he'll say he was just watching a movie or doing something else.  We haven't talked since we met up, but I saw his comments on another girl's picture (on Facebook) calling her sexy, and I think he's losing interest when I had really started liking him.  Please tell me if he's a player or interested or what!  Because I'm afraid he lost interest after we met up and now he's stopped talking to me because of that.  Please help!

Sincerely,

Amanda

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Apr 20, 2011

Signs She's Into You


Guys are always wondering what signs can be used to figure out if a woman's interested...while each woman is different, there are some universal indicators that can usually be used to find out if a woman's interested or not.  Below, some tell-tale signs a woman is into you!

1) She cancels plans with others to hang out with you. This is one of the biggest indicators that a girl is into you, and that's when she starts being flakey on plans with others just to hang out with you...a girl who's really smitten will flake out on plans with others just to spend more time with you.  If a female friend skips out on cocktails with her girls or Sunday afternoon shopping with her BFF just to help you reorganize your DVD collection, for instance, it ain't because she's thoroughly impressed with your Adam Sandler collection!  If you're interested, now's the time to make your move.

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Apr 6, 2011

Q & A - Is Our Long-Distance Relationship Doomed?

Q. Dear Alannah,

I need another person's opinion!  I'm in my first relationship with a guy who is two years older than me.  We started dating in September 2010 and things were fine and dandy for the first 4 months of our relationship.  I was very busy with school because it was my last year of undergrad, so basically, he was always the one coming down after work to see me once or twice a week.  At first, I was careful not to open my heart too much to him because 1) I wanted to play it safe, and 2) my lack of free time to spend with him prevented it from happening as well.  However, he surprised me some time in November when he said out of nowhere, "I think I love you," as he was leaving.  I was shocked and felt really bad because at that point, I could not say the same back to him.  After that incident though, I let down the walls around my heart and took more time out for him. Since then, my affections for him have grown a lot.

The problem came about 4 months into the relationship when he told me that he would be leaving at the beginning of February for Korea to teach English for 6 months.  I was completely alright with the idea of him being across the globe from me (I'm in Toronto) because I had complete faith in him.  However, the things that have transpired since he got his acceptance into the teaching abroad program has planted a lot of doubts in my mind.  He said a lot about how he'd keep up with this relationship while he was in Korea and such, but his words and his actions contradict each other.  In most cases, whenever it comes down to himself vs. the relationship, he'd always puts himself first.  I'm not saying that everything he does has to be for the relationship first and foremost.  However, from my point-of-view, it seems like I'm the one putting more effort into this relationship than he is.  For example, in order for us to Skype, I basically have to be online whenever I can because he can't give me a set time for when we can Skype on a weekly basis.  I've made it clear to him that I'm frustrated and unhappy with some of the things that he's been doing, but his actions haven't changed.  He just gets defensive about his actions and never tries to console me or make me happy. (I've tried to be objective, but I think my explanation has taken on a subjective view at this point.)  He's told me that this long distance deal has been an ordeal for him as well, but when I ask him if he still wants in on this, he says yes.  The only problem that I have with his "yes" is that I know, from what he's told me, that he has trouble breaking up with girls.

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