May 28, 2010

Q & A - She Brought Her Friend With Her

Q. Dear Alannah,

I recently asked this girl out to go to lunch with me.  During what I thought would be our date, she brought her friend with her.  I talked to both of them and made them both laugh, and gave about 80% of my attention to my date, and 20% of my attention to her friend. 

Now I'm wondering, since she brought her friend along, does this mean she isn't interested?  Should I go ahead and ask her out for a second date, or not?  Also, if she is interested, why would she bring her friend along in the first place?  What should I do?

Sincerely,

Aaron

A. Dear Aaron,

Your date bringing her friend along doesn't necessarily mean that she isn't interested; there can be a number of reasons why she asked her friend to come along, but the 3 top possibilities are:

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May 25, 2010

A Little More About the Author

Sorry for the delay in postings lately everyone!  Am trying to get used to this whole Vlog thing, and once I do, new videos will be up soon! :)  In the meantime, I wanted to tell you a little bit more about myself, since I haven't really done that much on here.

1) Am a perfectionist to the core - I drive myself nuts with it.  I'll notice things that no one else will notice, but mostly when it comes to my own work...is part of the reason it's taking awhile for those new Vlogs!

2) I love RPG games - Final Fantasy is the best!

3) I love dogs.  Cats are cute, but they scare me...you never know if one'll come up and rub against your leg, or, try to scratch your eyes out!!

4) I felt like an old soul growing up, but now feel like I'm aging backwards in that I feel more carefree as the years go by...go figure!

5) Chocolate can solve (almost) all of life's problems.

6) "There's no such thing as a free lunch." I couldn't agree more!

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May 21, 2010

Q & A - Should I Date Someone Who'll Be a Rebound?

Q. Dear Alannah,

I broke up with my ex-girlfriend recently, and am currently going through the motions of the break-up.  The worst part of it is kind of over, but I still feel pretty lonely.  I miss having someone there who I can share things and spend time with, as well as also have my unsatisfied, "manly" needs.

There's this girl who seems pretty interested in me; I only see her as a friend, though.  I sometimes want to date her just for the sake of having someone.  I don't have feelings for her, though, and I know it'd ruin the friendship afterwards.  It'd be a quick fix for the pain and loneliness, but kind of unethical.  So I've been holding myself back, and trying to get through it alone.

My question was, should I just go ahead and go for it anyway, and could rebound relationships end well?

Sincerely,

Andy

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May 20, 2010

Truth or Dare: Confess Your Crush


Truth:

Look up an old crush on Facebook and let them know about the huge crush you used to have on them (if you're single, of course!).

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May 17, 2010

How to Get Over a Break-Up

So you and your boyfriend or girlfriend just broke up, and you're feeling the pain of the break-up...everyone says it'll take time to heal, and you've probably been through it before, but what can you do in the meantime to help ease the process?  Below, some tips that'll help make the recovery process after a break-up easier and (somewhat) more bearable as you heal and move on.

1) Get rid of their stuff.  Return clothes, things they left at your place, things of value they may want back, and anything else you'd feel bad about tossing.  This doesn't have to include gifts they gave you (it's usually understood that gifts given to one another during a relationship are kept after a break-up, unless, of course, your ex is really petty and has asked for them back).

Depending on how the relationship ended, take things you acquired during and from the relationship - such as pictures, gifts, mementos, anything that reminds you of them - and either get rid of them, or, store them in a spot out of plain sight so you won't randomly come across them.

2) Stop listening to songs that remind you of them.  This is a subtle - yet in my opinion, important - thing on a person's list of must-do things in order to get over a break-up.  "It's just a song," you might say.  "What harm can it do to listen to something that reminds you of the good times?"  Well, if you're sitting there listening to your and your ex's song day in and day out after your break up, or the song that reminds you of your first date (or your first kiss, etc.), how are you going to move on from the relationship and move forward with your life? 

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May 14, 2010

Q & A - For Business or Pleasure?

Q. Dear Alannah,

I have a male house mate that has been living with me for eight months now.  When my roommate first moved in, I was going on casual dates with guys from time to time.  None of them were serious or anything, but he would see me get dressed up, the doorbell would ring, and off I would go.  Initially, I wanted our living situation to be professional (tenant/landlord) with no fraternization.  About four to five months ago, we started showing interest in each other.  I believe there was an initial unspoken attraction when we first met, but I was determined not to cross the boundaries of tenant/landlord relations.  For some reason or another, I started spending more time at home.  I started getting know my roommate on a personal level.  We started watching movies, cooking, cleaning, going out to restaurants, and bars together.  I warned him that I could see myself getting attached to him if we were ever to become intimate with each other, and that we probably shouldn’t go in that direction.  Despite my warning to him, one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together.  We have been sleeping together for about 4 or 5 months now.  I have become extremely fond of him, I even think I feel love for him!  About a month or so after we first started messing around, I asked him if he wanted to be my man, he said that he, "really liked me, but that he didn’t want a relationship right now and not to rush into things, and to just to go with the flow!”

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May 13, 2010

Truth or Dare: Try a New Look


Dare:

Try a crazy new look when you go out this weekend.  (Or, just try a look you normally wouldn't don.)

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May 10, 2010

Q & A - Classmate Crushin'

Q. Dear Alannah,

There's a girl in one of my classes that I'm interested in getting to know.  She's pretty cute, and seems pretty interesting.  She usually sits in the front row - not many people usually sit there, so it's pretty normal for me to sit next to her during class.  The lecture is kind of a large class (around 150 people).

What should I do in order to get to know her better?  What can I talk to her about?  How can I approach and strike up a conversation with her?  We don't necessarily need to start dating; we could also just be friends.  Should I strike up a conversation with her spontaneously, so that it won't seem strange?  What's the best thing to do here?

Sincerely,

Devin

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May 8, 2010

Truth or Dare: Approach Someone


Dare:

For the single guys and gals, approach someone you find hot today and let them know you find them attractive. 

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May 5, 2010

Q & A - Work Crush

Q. Dear Alannah,

I've been in a relationship for 4 years, and my boyfriend is amazing.  We've been very happy, but recently a situation has come up which makes me feel pretty much like garbage for being a part of it.  You see, there's this guy at work that I flirt with all the time, and he flirts with me also.  We hung out outside of work one night, and I could tell that the likes me.  Since then, I can't stop thinking about him.  I don't know what it is, whether it's because I have actual feelings for him, or just because it's new and exciting.  Anyways, recently, I saw that he updated his status on Facebook to "In a Relationship" and I felt a pit in my stomach.  I want to stop feeling this way; it's ridiculous!  What should I do??

Sincerely,

Kara

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May 3, 2010

How to Date Like a Bad Boy (Without Being One)

Welcome to my first ever vlog!!  Enjoy! ;)

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