Q & A - Timing Issues

Q. Dear Alannah,

So, this guy I kind of had a little thing for asked me out a little while ago. However, at the time I was dating someone, so I'd told him, "I'd love to, but just as friends. I'm seeing someone right now," and he had said he understood, and that it wasn't a problem. Anyhow, as luck would have it (or maybe not so much) that relationship I was in ended, and after some time, I'm still interested in going on a date with this other guy.

However, how should I tell him that I'm not seeing anyone else and would love to go on a date with him, without seeming like I'm jumping from one guy to the next? I just want to see if he's still interested, and am trying to think of the best way to do it. What do you suggest?

Sincerely,

Helen

A. Dear Helen,

I love hearing "the timing wasn't right, but things finally fell in to place for us" stories (call me a romantic! ;)), so I definitely think there's still hope here. You were honest with him from the beginning, so he'll definitely appreciate that. Whether or not he's still feeling the same is the question, but there's only one way to find out, and that's by making your move.

Call him up, and ask him out for coffee. If he's interested, he'll accept your invitation. Once on your coffee date, catch up to see how he's been, then eventually, lead the conversation up to see if he's currently seeing anyone. If he isn't, be honest with him, and let him know you're available now and would like to see if he'd like to go on a date sometime. If he hasn't had a significant change of heart during that period of time, I'm guessing he will be thrilled to hear that you're interested, and will definitely take you up on your offer.

Good luck! ;)

Alannah