How to Stay Out of the "I Would Never Have Sex With You" Zone

Most guys have probably heard this before, that most women, within the first 10 minutes of meeting a guy, decides whether or not she would ever have sex with him. To some extent, this is true. Yes, it sounds drastic, but, first impressions are very important.

For those who don't automatically fall into the "I don't know if I'd date you, but I might hook up with you" category purely by default of good looks, you're in luck! There are other ways to increase your chances of avoiding the "I would never have sex with you" zone when first meeting a woman (and thereby, increasing your chances of attracting and possibly scoring a date with her). They are:

1) If you meet a woman who's attractive and obviously gets hit on all the time, refrain from drooling all over her. Refrain from using the clichéd lines she's probably heard a million times before, such as, "You are so hot!" or "You're the most beautiful girl here." Yes, it's nice to give compliments, especially if they're sincere, but lines like those aren't very original, and she'll probably think they're cheesy or that you're trying to get in her pants. (For examples on the right kind of compliments to give a woman, click here.)

2) Make her laugh. Women love men who can make them laugh. Instead of putting the moves on her (in an oh-so-obvious way), entertain her, make her laugh. Be random, and use backhanded compliments or cockiness to tease her. For more examples on the different kinds of humor that attract women, click here.

3) Don't be creepy. Nothing gets you into the "I would never have sex with you" zone faster than giving off a "creepy" vibe when first meeting a woman. Ensure you don't by following the next few rules: no prolonged staring, no uninvited, "accidental" touching. Don't act "possessive" upon first meeting a woman, and definitely don't expect anything in return for any niceness/generosity you may show (such as buying drinks at a bar, covering a tab, etc.). It'll seem as if your generosity had a hidden motive, and if there's one thing that will instantly turn a woman off, it would be that!

Instead of coming on very strong when first meeting a woman, be congenial and friendly. Flirtatiousness - the verbal kind - is good, but if you haven't received any cues on her part to become more physically flirtatious, refrain from it. What are some clues that a woman is diggin' you?

a) Playing with her hair. Sounds cliché, but it's true - many females, when flirting with a guy, subconsciously will start playing with their hair. Twisting, twirling, the coquettish "side flip" - they're all subtle indicators that she might be feelin' you.

b) Tilting her head to the side while talking to you. We females do this subconsciously when flirting with a guy, whether to seem more "cute" or "coquettish", but if she does this often while talking to you, she may be flirting with you.

c) Laughing at all of your jokes, even the ones you don't find funny. Most guys - unless they're professional stand-up comedians - will have some jokes that will fall flat, especially when trying to impress a woman he's attracted to. A way to know if she may be in to you is that she will laugh at almost all of your jokes, even the not-so-funny ones.

If you see some of these cues when flirting with her, then, you can slowly progress with the physical flirtation (touching her arms or hands, her lower back, her shoulders, etc.).

4) Confidence. 'Nuff said. As mentioned in previous posts, one of the best aphrodisiacs for a woman is confidence in a man. Don't be intimidated by any female you meet, and your confidence will show. Even if a guy is attractive, if he doesn't have confidence or belief in himself, it shows, and will decrease his attractiveness level in a woman's eyes.

Some ways to show confidence when interacting with a woman are:

a) Be assertive. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Women like men who are sure of themselves, so don't be afraid to assert yourself; wishy-washiness shows self-doubt, so when you say something, stick by it.

b) Speak your mind. On a similar note, don't be afraid to express your opinion. Even if it goes slightly against the grain, having your own opinion is far more interesting than simply following the general consensus, and shows you can think for yourself. It doesn't mean that you need to shoot down anyone else's opinion that differs from yours, either; it's possible to express your own opinion, and yet gracefully agree to disagree.

c) Don't be afraid to use a female at the butt of one of your jokes when flirting with her (as long as it's not mean-spirited). As mentioned above, women love men who can make them laugh. A guy who isn't afraid to tease a girl stands out; it shows he isn't intimidated by her, and - as long as the joke isn't obscene, mean-spirited, or embarrassing for her - can work to get her to notice you. (For some examples on how to flirtatiously tease a woman, click here.)

For more tips on how to stay out of the "I would never have sex with you" zone, keep an eye out for my upcoming dating e-book for guys, coming soon! ;)