So, you're an awesome catch, with loads to offer and are looking for a guy whose world to rock. However, you need some assistance in getting them to notice the amazing catch that you are. Not a problem! By following a few tips, you can instantly improve your attraction level with men, and have them lining up outside your door ;)
My post today is part of a 3 part post for the ladies on ways to instantly improve your attraction level with men and make yourself irresistible! Since attraction usually starts with external appearances, today's post will be regarding immediate external changes you can make to your appearance and behavior that will help to instantly increase your attraction level.
1) Smile. Smiling shows that you're a happy and friendly person, which in turn makes you seem more approachable, which will definitely encourage more guys who are interested to come and approach you. No matter how hot a girl is, if she seems stuck-up or standoffish, oftentimes most guys will either be too intimidated, or too turned off by the unfriendly vibe (whether real or imagined) to want to try approaching her.
2) Improve your posture. This means standing tall and not slouching when you're sitting. It works for men, and it also works for women - standing or sitting tall helps to improve your appearance overall, making you appear more confident, and even has a slimming effect.
3) Looks. With men, looks obviously play an important factor in attraction. What many women don't realize, however, is that you can very easily change a man's perspective of how attractive a woman is just by using the right "tools" (i.e. make-up, hairstyle, and/or clothes) for physical enhancement. Men are more "easily swayed" than are women as to a certain woman's physical attractiveness, so using the right tools can help to bring your best attributes to the forefront. Below are a few tips you can use to increase your physical attraction level.
a) Hair. Choosing the right haircut for your face shape can help to flatter it and frame your best facial features, as well as drastically reduce styling time. It can also help to dramatically change your appearance. The different types of face shapes include oval, round, heart, square, and oblong.
i) Oval. This face shape has a length that is almost exactly 1 1/2 times longer than the width of the face. This is considered the "ideal" face shape because almost any hairstyle will look good on someone with this face shape. Short and long - as well as straight or wavy - hair looks good on oval face shapes. Flattering cuts also include bangs, sophisticated bobs, or long, beachy waves. Styles you want to avoid, however, would be ones with is short layers that add height on top of your head, or heavy bangs that hang in your face and eyes. Celebrities with this face shape include Jessica Alba, Halle Berry, and Charlize Theron.
ii) Round. Round face shapes have a length that is pretty much equal to the width, and is round in shape. The goal with round face shapes is to create less volume around the face and to minimize the appearance of roundness. Flattering hairstyles include cuts that fall just below the chin; shoulder-length or longer haircuts; soft, graduated layers; and long and sideswept bangs. Hairstyles you should avoid if you have a round face shape include one-length, blunt cut styles for short hair, as well as short, curly hair, since it will only make your face appear more round. Celebrities with this face shape include Cameron Diaz, Catherine Zeta-Jones and Drew Barrymore.
iii) Heart Shaped. Heart-shaped faces have wide cheekbones and/or forehead and a narrow jaw, as well as a pointy chin. If you have a heart shaped face, your pointy chin will tend to be the focal point, so hairstyles that draw attention to your eyes and/or cheekbones instead will help to flatter and balance out your overall look. Chin-length or longer haircuts, sideswept bangs, a strong part and brow-grazing fringe are all flattering styles for this face shape. Styles to avoid would include very short styles and short-blunt cut bangs or harsh, choppy layers. Celebrities with heart shaped faces include Katie Holmes, Reese Witherspoon, and Keira Knightley.
iv) Square. Square face shapes have forehead and jawline widths that are pretty much equal, and also have a strong, angular jawline. Haircuts that flatter this face shape would help to de-emphasize, or play down, the strong jawline. Haircuts that are flattering for this face shape include texture in the form of curls or choppy ends that help to play down the jawline, as well as long, layered hairstyles with layers that begin at the jawline and continue downward. Hairstyles to avoid include one-length bobs and blunt-cut bangs, which only make the face look more square. Celebrities with this face shape include Angelina Jolie, Rosario Dawson, and Gwyneth Paltrow.
v) Oblong. Oblong face shapes have lengths that are longer than they are wide. The ideal haircut for this face shape helps to add width without dragging down the face (no weighty hairstyles that visually increase the length of the face). Flattering hairstyles for this face shape include short- to medium-length haircuts; soft, wispy bangs that add fullness to the sides of the face; and chin-length or shoulder-length bobs, since they help to add width to the face. Hairstyles to avoid would include very long hair (which drag down the face), heavy bangs and blow-forward shags. Celebrities with an oblong face shape include Sarah Jessica Parker, Giselle Bundchen, and Liv Tyler.
For more tips on hairstyles for your face shape, check out:
- The Right Hairstyle for Your Face Shape - TheHairStyler.com: Hairstyles, Celebrity Hair Styles
b) Makeup. When applying makeup, depending on the occasion and/or time of day, accentuating one of your best features and going light on the other ones helps to bring about the most effective and flattering look. Going heavy on make-up during the daytime and for everyday wear doesn't leave as much room for a different make-up look for more formal events, and can be harder to maintain when out on dates.
If one of your best facial features is your eyes, you should accentuate them, then go light on your other features. A smokey eye look is perfect for evening dates. You could then dust on some light blush on your cheeks for definition and wear a lip gloss or light pink lip shade (very hot for Summer '09) to balance it out.
If your lips are one of your best features, wearing a flattering lip shade and finishing with a gloss on top will help draw attention to them. Other popular lip shades for Summer '09 include "1980's" inspired shades, such as various shades of pink, coral and peach. For your eyes, you can go with some eyeliner and mascara, and then a light sweep of blush for definition to your cheeks.
The thing to keep in mind with makeup is, for daytime or everyday wear, it's usually best to accentuate one of your best features, and go light on the other ones for the most flattering yet fuss-free look. For more in-depth make-up tips and trends, visit:
- Makeup Trends: Today's Hottest Makeup Looks - iVillage
- Summer Beauty 2009 - In Style
d) Clothes. You can instantly lose 10 pounds (visually) just by wearing clothes that are flattering to your body. With many of the sexy, sophisticated styles now in vogue, there are many choices for finding stylish clothes that play up your best assets. (Next week, I'll be discussing some current fashion trends that work well with and flatter all body types.)
Tip #1: Show off one physical asset at a time. When showing off a physical asset, (as mentioned in an earlier post) it's most flattering to emphasize just that asset only. For instance, when showing off great legs, skip the low-cut tops; when wearing tight clothing (especially dresses or skirts), try not to go with hemlines that are too high or otherwise show too much skin. It helps to accomplish a sexy yet classy vibe. This applies to daytime and everyday wear. (This rule can be somewhat loosened when going clubbing, however, where sexier attire is expected.)
Tip #2: Dress for your body type. Dressing for your body type helps to draw attention to your best assets. The main body types that the majority of people fall in to include the pear, ruler, hourglass, and funnel shaped body types. Tips on how to determine your specific body type and dressing for each type require much further discussion that I won't be able to go into here, but for more information on how to determine which body type you are and how to dress for each type, visit:
- What Body Type Am I? - StyleChicago.com
4) Carry yourself with confidence. No matter your body size, shape, weight or height, carrying yourself with confidence automatically draws positive attention. Confidence gives off an aura of something extra, makes people want to be around you and near you, male or female. Using the tips above will help boost your physical appearance, but if you don't carry yourself with confidence, you're not fully maximizing your potential.
If there's something about your body that you're dissatisfied with (for instance, you feel you could do without an extra 10 pounds or want to tone up), do something about it. Just working out 2-3 times a week and cutting out junk food from your diet can bring about dramatic changes. Not only that, working out also helps to increase your overall confidence level and is a great stress reliever.
If you're not ready for a major lifestyle overhaul, start small, with maybe about 1-2 workouts each week, and cutting one unhealthy food item or eating habit from your diet each week and replacing it with something healthier. Incorporate one small change each week, until you feel you are at a point where you feel you are satisfied.
In my next post, I'll discuss instant changes you can make to your thinking and behavior that will help to create lasting change and help to increase your overall attraction level with men!
- About.com - Flattering Haircuts for Face Shapes
- How to Be Irresistible to Men Part II
- How to Be Irresistible to Men Part III